Last night I got a ‘friend request’ on Facebook. This is not an uncommon email for most Americans. I have no idea who she is.
“We have three mutual friends?” I thought incredulously. I clicked on the friends. Hmmmm….still can’t place you. Is there a maiden name? It is customary to include your maiden name. Vital. I certainly don’t expect all my high school buddies to remember my new married name, let alone spell it. But no. No maiden name. I squinted at that tiny thumbnail photo for a full minute…..nothing. I have no idea who you are.
Now here’s the predicament: confirm or ignore?
A few months ago, when Paul and I debated whether we should join in the Facebook craze, we were dubious. Do we really want to invite every old face back into our current lives? That’s when we made this joint rule: if an old flame makes a “friend request,” politely click “ignore.” No exceptions. I trust my man, but do I really need his recently divorced college sweetheart perusing his profile, oogling over his most flattering photos, sending texts? No.
But I will say this: I have gotten to reconnect with fabulous old friends scattered all over the country, with whom I would’ve never otherwise gotten in touch. Now we send emails, Christmas cards…they even humor me and read this silly thing once and a while. I’m a Facebook fan.
But who is this person calling me “friend?” I just can’t place her! I’m not sure if I’m ready for this mystery woman to be included in my 438 closest friends circle, ya know? That’s commitment.
I keep thinking of that song by “The Clash:”
Should I confirm or click ignore now
If I confirm there could be trouble
If I ignore there will be double
So come on and let me know
Should I confirm or click ignore?